Jack Canfield’s ‘The Success Principles 10 Day Transformation’. Day 3

Day 3 of ‘The Success Principles 10 Day Transformation’. I didn’t do so well yesterday as one of the goals I set for myself was to get an article written for a magazine that has been sitting around, unworked for two weeks. I should have done it, and I didn’t. No excuses. But, I got up this morning, finished the article and sent it off. So I don’t feel too bad about it now.

But what does Day 3 have in store?

Blame. It’s easy to blame others for the circumstances of our lives. I’ve done it plenty of times. I still do. I blamed my parents for not having enough money to be able to provide the opportunites that others had. I blamed a friend who encouraged me into the teaching profession, for wasting a signficant part of my life that did not allow me to live to my potential. I blamed the college timetable, when I was 16 years old, for not allowing me to study and thus pursue my writing career, and for pushing me in a direction that I didn’t want to go in.

Too often in life, we put the blame somewhere outside of ourselves, for our circumstances. but our circumstances are what we have and we have to deal with them the best way we can. We need to make positive choices, given our circumstances, to bring as much happiness and security and love that we can into our own lives, without harming others.

E+R=O is the way Jack puts it. Event + Response = Outcome.

We may have no control over the event (someone shouts at you, the weather is bad, an earthquake happens, your wife leaves you), but we do have control over our response (we get upset or send love to the person that shouted, we get wet or take an umbrella with us when it rains, we look at our destroyed home or pick up our lives and go help those in need, we sit and feel sad or try to solve the problems we had in our marriage). Whatever choice we make, leads to the outcome. The outcome is entirely dependent on the Event and the Response. The bit we are in control of 100%, is the Response.

So here are some claiming back blame points that I made in this exercise:

1/ Whenever I feel let down by parents lack of money to provide me with the opportunities earlier in my life, I will send them love and understanding that they were doing the very best they could, with what they had at the time.

2/ Whenever I feel resentment for being encouraged into the life of a school-teacher, I will reflect on the fact that this is now the past, and I have a great new opportunity to build the life that I wish for.

3/ When the job that I was promised fell through, instead of blaming the school, I will be enthusiastic about the opportunity I now to build a new career, in the direction that I wish to go in.

Blaming doesn’t help, ever. Seeing circumstances as opportunities is the only way forward. Sitting and blaming others, the government, the weather, the tax system, the economy, doesn’t help. Taking them for what they are: opportunities to correct our own thinking does.

I will be back with Day 4 tomorrow.




About Steve Gooch

Steve Gooch was born in March 1962 in Rugby, Warwickshire in England and grew up there with his two brothers and sister. He moved to Corsham in Wiltshire and attended Bath Academy of Art, where he studied sculpture and printmaking, before going on to work on projects for the artists Joe Tilson and Nick Pope. He also helped with the publication of a limited edition folio of Paul Eluard’s poetry. Steve moved to London to study for a postgraduate teaching certificate and then worked as a teacher of art in the UK. He gained his MA in Education with the Open University and also studied the discipline of Reiki with his Reiki teachers in Newcastle upon Tyne. His daughter Marianne was born in 1994. For a period of time, Steve devoted himself to teaching Reiki in his hometown of Rugby, before moving to Egypt, where he resumed his career as an art teacher, becoming the Head of Art in a prestigious British International School in Cairo. He continued to teach Reiki, introducing the discipline for the first time to Egypt. He also wrote extensively on the subject for various Egyptian English-language magazines. Returning to the UK, Steve’s son Sam was born in 2004. Not wanting to go back into the teaching profession, Steve took a job as a chef in a vegetarian restaurant and wrote his first book ‘Reiki Jin Kei Do: The Way of Compassion & Wisdom’. It was the world’s first book on that particular tradition of Reiki and is still considered to be the standard reference work on the subject. Steve them moved to Sudan, where he was again Head of Art at the prestigious Unity High School, and built an online living history for the school, called 'The Unity High School Archive'. It was in the process of building this archive that Steve uncovered a major scandal involving senior members of the Anglican Church, local dignitaries, and members of the faith communities. As a consequence, he got to know the head of the Secret Police in Khartoum quite well and then promptly left the country. Steve moved back to Egypt and took up a post as Head of Art in a school in Alexandria. Very much involved in the Reiki community in the UK, however, he founded the national organisation ‘Reiki Jin Kei Do UK’ and became the editor of ‘Focus: The Journal of Reiki Jin Kei Do UK’, and then set up the global ‘Reiki Jin Kei Do International’. He also set up the global video-arts project '12seconds for Peace'. The concept grabbed the attention of a number of big names in the peace movement, including Nobel Peace Prize nominees, and threatened to go viral. Circumstances (revolutions and social unrest) put it on the back-burner. Likewise, a major peace initiative called the 'Global Concert for Peace', scheduled for the summer of 2013, which would have been the world's biggest musical event, also went on the back-burner. Steve moved to Saudi Arabia for a little over a year in 2014, before returning to Egypt to take up a senior management position in another British International School in Cairo. Finally, after a year of professional purgatory in which he realised that there is no such thing as a good British International School in Egypt, he decided ‘enough is enough’ and quit the teaching profession for good to focus on his writing, art and Reiki classes. He is currently living in Cairo and writing ‘The Temple of the Djinn’, which is loosely based on the events that he uncovered during his time in Sudan. He is also teaching Reiki and working freelance for a variety of Egyptian magazines. He misses the UK and is looking forward to spending more time in his home country with his children. He'd also like to find time to paint and make sculpture.
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